It’s that time of the year where you’re either super lovey-dovey, or you’re still a Grinch on a day that falls two months after Christmas, a.k.a. Valentine’s Day. Even though Valentine’s Day is based around greeting cards, chocolate, shades of red, and love, here’s some “don’ts” for this lovely holiday.
1. Don’t feel sorry for yourself.
You might be single, watching reruns of Say Yes To the Dress while eating Ben & Jerry’s, thinking “I’m never going to get married. I give up on love.” The thing is, you’re probably in your early twenties, and you’ve got a long way to go. Think positivity. If you’re going to eat that ice cream on Valentine’s Day, do it because it makes you happy. Start your day off will a clear, positive mind, greeting friends and family with the gift of love, not wasting your time by complaining.
2. Don’t obsess over the holiday.
People aren’t getting Valentine’s Day off from work. The cards full of money or the boxes full of chocolates from your parents may be kind of nice, but treat it just like another day. If you’re in a relationship, be sure to tell that special someone you love them and that they’re the only gift you need. But if you’re into the gift giving, try a DIY Valentine that speaks the truth or create a mutual agreement on buying presents.
3. Don’t hate your friends for being in relationships.
“You’re spending how much on his Valentine’s gift? Ugh you guys are so annoying…” They may seem annoying, but they could also be in love. Don’t take your hatred out on your friends for having a significant other; try being happy when your friends Instagram the gifts they got from their boo. And you may want your friends all to yourself, but if they’re in a relationship, that person needs affection, too. Learn to share!
4. Don’t compare yourself to others, especially celebrity couples.
“Oh my god, they’re so perfect #goals.” I’m guilty of this. I don’t know who isn’t, but why do we do obsess over other couples so often? Maybe it’s because constant media outlets are pouring pictures of glorious-looking sweethearts all over social media, so we can’t help to be jealous? The thing is, I’m never going to look like Sofia Vergara and probably won’t be engaged to a Joe Manganiello, so I’m not being honest to myself by comparing my life to theirs. We are all unique individuals and we need to start celebrating that. So stop comparing and start celebrating who you truly are.
And something to remember this holiday: Treat yo’ self.