Blake Shelton taught me everything I needed to know about men, both their thirst and agenda, through the bio line of a Tinder experiment.
Tinder? Oh stop, you know what it is. If you haven’t downloaded it out of sheer curiosity then you definitely have a friend who thinks she will meet Prince Charming on it. In an age of online dating and swipe rights, I put personality to the test. But, like all good experiments, there were ground rules:
- 4 weeks total
- 2 Weeks with a Flirty Bio
- 2 Weeks with a Feminist Bio
- Same pictures and discovery settings
Weeks 1-2 I created my Tinder profile and set the bio line to a popular country lyric, “My eyes are the only things I don’t want to take off of you.” There were 50 matches resulting from this line.
My favorite conversation starters were:
- “Would you like to take those lips off of me though?”
- “Your eyes are the only things I don’t want to take off of you. If you know what I mean.”
- “Sounds a lot smoother in a Blake Shelton song than a Tinder bio.” (Whoop there it is.)
- “Roses are red, so are your lips. Would you like to sit on my face and wiggle your hips?” I thus responded with, “Violets are blue and so are your balls.” Hey, there were no rules against retaliation.
Conversations were quite boring- as you would assume when leading with a provocative line. I did get a lot of casual hellos and compliments too, but those conversations fizzled out when I rejected their coffee dates and “Netflix and chill” proposals. Also, a lot of these matches did not reach out, in fact, only 30% of them even started a conversation.
- 15/50 guys reached out to me
- 5 with a provocative pick-up line
- 10 with a casual “hey, wassup, hello”
Weeks 3-4 brought a different vibe to the Tinder game. I changed by bio line to: “We’re all feminists, some of us just don’t know it yet,” which resulted in 30 matches. Not as many matches as my flirty bio, BUT I received more “Super Likes” than ever. A Super Like is a function of Tinder that allows you to swipe up, showing extra interest in that person. Out of my 30 matches, 6 of them were Super Likes. Out of my matches, 47% of them reached out for a conversation.
- 14/30 reached out to talk to me
- 2 with a provocative pick-up line
- 9 with a casual “hey, wassup, hello”
- 3 with a reference toward feminism
What I found most interesting with the guys who addressed by bio line were their stances toward it:
- “I think I am going to use your bio as my philosophical quote of the day.”
- “What?! I’m a feminist? Are you telling me my whole life has been a lie?!”
- “Why am I a feminist?”
Hold up, what? One in three men were non-combative when discussing my bio. Two of the men seemed to think I was insulting them. I took one of the conversations a little further, prompting them what they thought it meant to be a feminist.
His response was simply, “You seem like a lot of fun.” He’s right, I am fun, but I don’t have to compromise my values to seem like it.
You never truly know someone until you talk to him or her. Tinder, being an app, can give more freedom to your speech and your actions. I doubt that any of those boys would have reacted the same way to me if I had met them in a bar. So, is this a good thing or a bad? Well, there’s not much to it.
Regardless of my bio line, this app proved a couple of human truths:
- When asked about favorite foods it usually lead to a conversation about me cooking it for them, which made me believe that these Tinder men aren’t thirsty after all. They’re starving. Literally, someone feed them.
- People respond to opinions much more than they do to familiarity. When prompted with a conversational stance, the men felt the need to combat it rather than when prompted with a sexual innuendo. This is because unfamiliarity makes us uncomfortable and no one likes feeling that way.
- Quality over quantity. Whatever you want, make sure you lead with it. When I voiced my opinion I got less matches, but more people willing to open up to me and get to know me.
Tinder may just be a popular, “hook up” app, but it did cause me to meet some interesting people. Each person in the world has opinions, which might not always align with yours. That’s okay. Regarding feminism and equality for both genders, well, we must stand strong until it becomes the norm.
So, thank you, Blake Shelton, for helping me realize the bio doesn’t matter all too much when the app is meant for make outs.