So Your Friend Just Landed Your Dream Opportunity, Here’s How To Deal
I have always dreamed of working at the New York Times. Waking up in my spacious Manhattan apartment overlooking the bustling city, making myself a steaming cup of coffee, throwing on my best “I’m-a-boss” outfit, grabbing my keys and rushing to my demanding yet rewarding job at a world-renowned newspaper.
It’s a pipe dream, I’ll admit but that hasn’t stopped me from daydreaming – that is, until my best friend landed a coveted, seemingly out-of-the-blue internship this semester.
I couldn’t believe it. It just didn’t seem possible that she simply “saw a position opening on LinkedIn, applied, and got the job.”
Things like that just don’t happen. How could my dream job be so in-reach for her and seem so impossible for me? Not to mention the fact that the internship was paid.
Quite frankly, I felt like a loser.
There I was, barely succeeding in surviving my day-to-day workload, trying to strike a balance between the work hard and play hard culture, and managing to find time to workout, eat, shower and finally sleep; and there she was landing a highly-coveted internship as a freshman, boasting a perfect 4.0, and making moves to start her own business all without breaking-a-sweat.
Was I doing it all wrong?
The answer I soon realized was that there was no right way to “do” college.
While my best friend rocks a resumé and transcript that is off the charts impressive for someone her age, she also deals with her fair share of stress, all-nighters, and moments of failure. While I was astounded by her seemingly superhuman abilities, I soon realized that she was just as human as I was.
Even as she received boxes of NYT swag, I noticed her stress levels rising as her job became more involved.
So I resolved to set my jealousy aside. I had no reason to be jealous of her and every reason to celebrate her success. Without realizing it, I found myself bragging about her to my friends and family and consequently realized how truly proud of her I was.
I soon realized that in celebrating her success, I was creating an atmosphere for others to be willing to celebrate my successes.
In this way, I became part of her support system and our friendship grew stronger as we celebrated each other’s successes and soothed each other in times of stress or failure.
Ultimately I realized that being happy for others is all about karma – what goes around, comes around. In celebrating others, you foster an environment of positivity, support and general good vibes. In this way, you can look forward to welcoming more joy into your own life as you celebrate the success of others.
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