It’s your typical warm fall evening. Five o’clock hits and I’ve already downed four glasses of wine. At this rate, I’m headed to take pulls of whiskey from a water bottle that seven girls have already drank out of. I’m feeling good, really good. Oh did I mention I wasn’t even at the pregame yet?
When I do finally get there, guess who is taking shots? This girl! Thirty minutes later I’m stumbling my way over to the main event. This includes me stopping and peeing in the middle of our walk out for the whole world to see. Classic. By the time I’ve made it there, well I couldn’t tell you what happened. Ask my “friends” though; they seemed to have enjoyed my blackout experience.
Alright, so I gave you a “typical” drunk college girl story, but that story was all entirely true, not to mention that girl was me in October. Starting my freshman year to last semester, short stories like that were the highlight of my weekend experience. I could go on and on about how many nights I spent feeling good from too many shots of cheap vodka and barefoot Moscato. So, you may be wondering then, what’s the problem? You sound like you’re having a fun typical college experience?
Was I though? Last I checked it felt like I had more shot glasses in my cabinet than I actually did real friends. Sure, I had some girls who would invite me to go out, but if I decided to stay in it was almost like I had the plague or something because no one bothered to hang out with me. I was doing this whole party scene thing, why didn’t I feel happy? Wasn’t this supposed to be the best four years of my life? I felt extremely unhappy and just really in a sense worthless. I felt like I wasn’t really valued by anyone unless I was at another house party being the funny chill girl everyone adored.
By this time, I recognized there was a serious problem in my life and I needed to fix this immediately. Plain and simple, I wasn’t happy. I was tired of feeling this way. I didn’t really know how to solve this at first, but I knew I needed to take some sort of step out of my comfort zone and into the unknown to make this change happen. I wasn’t going to let this unhappiness control my college experience. I needed to be in charge of my happiness, not other people, not the party scene, me.
After soon realizing this, for me, I started to go to a movement on campus called Campus Crusade for Christ. I have experienced genuine friendships and incredible things one wouldn’t believe since. I have never felt so loved in my entire life.
That’s what worked for me personally. I know everyone is different, though. Although many of us face similar experiences with unhappiness, there are so many different ways to solve it.
For example, maybe you’re thinking about quitting a sport because it adds more stress than it does joy, or you’re switching your major, or even transferring schools. But you haven’t taken that step yet cause in all honesty, it’s totally terrifying. But you have to do it. I cannot stress that enough. You may feel like you’re alienating yourself. Maybe you feel like you’re a “quitter” if you change drastic life direction.
You need to eliminate unhappiness from your life because with it, you’re wasting time where you could be the happiest you’ve ever been. I mean, I get it. Leaving old habits and even friends can be extremely difficult, but you can’t let the fear of the unknown hold you back from experiencing true happiness.
So here’s my advice to you. Leave what is making you unhappy because chances are, it’s going to be worth it. You just have to take that risk.
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