First thing’s first, what is chronic grumpiness? It’s the feeling of being irritated with everything and everyone all. the. time. It’s like having a case of the Mondays every day of the week. It’s stepping outside of your apartment with permanent bitch face.
It’s the reason you’re always shooting dirty looks to a particularly loud classmate. It’s the reason you can’t stand more than five minutes of waiting in line for Starbucks. And it’s sucking away the vital memory-making time of your early twenties.
Yes, crotchety behavior comes and it goes. It’s perfectly common to have cranky days every now and then. But if you’re in a place where you feel as if every day is giving you a reason to be a grump, let’s do some reevaluating.
If this is something that you find yourself struggling with, I completely understand. This is actually a phenomenon that I didn’t notice until I came to college. Maybe it was my new all-over-the-place sleep schedule or the fact that I was thrown into five classes a week with a bunch of randos. But I noticed myself getting irritated by the littlest thing day after day after day.
It took me a while until I realized that I had spent days, weeks in a row complaining the time away. Chronic grumpiness had made me permanently pissy, causing me to miss lots of little moments of joy throughout my day. I didn’t stop myself from judging everyone around me and scowling at rainy weather forecasts.
I assume that you’re reading this because you’re in the same boat, or maybe you know a chronic grump of your own, but I will tell you that there is only one cure.
You have to get out of your own head. Realize that every morning that you wake up you are going to be experiencing this day and all its glories and challenges for the first time and for the last time. You have never encountered a day exactly like this one and there will never be a day exactly like it again. Ever.
There are cliche ways of saying this that we’ve all heard: Live each day as if it were your last. Every day is a gift so don’t waste it. Blah blah and blah.
But there is a real danger in having a crotchety attitude towards life and all its parts. Before you know it you’ll be losing time. Months will come and go and the only thing you’ll be able to remember will be all the things that aggravated you.
Long lines and loud people suck. Rainy days and tough professors are nobody’s preference. But a very funny thing happens when you choose to shift your perspective ever so slightly.
You start to see that rainy days don’t suck as bad when you’re wearing your adorable rubber boots and stomping through puddles- big or small.
Long lines don’t suck as bad when you have a good book to read while you wait.
Loud people can become a great source of entertainment. Tough professors are a rewarding challenge that you can and will overcome.
Busy schedules mean that you are out there doing great things for yourself. Irritating roommates give you the chance to leave the house and go for a run.
Looking at things just that much differently could really help you see your time spent at college in a brighter light. You can look back and honestly say that you have made the best out of this chapter of your life. Don’t grouch your way through your twenties! Leave that to your forties.
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