Sometimes we have those days that are going perfectly fine until one small thing happens and your entire day skyrockets into the trash. Maybe your day has been great but then you break your favorite necklace or you have a friend cancel plans last minute.
Sometimes your freshman year of college can be like that. Here are some of the most common trials and tribulations of freshman year and exactly why you shouldn’t let them leave a bitter taste in your mouth.
1. A Crappy Roommate
The first week or two of freshman year is often marked by the “Roommate Honeymoon Phase” in which you and your roommate will get food in the dining hall together and become quick friends. This phase either burns out or becomes a lasting friendship. Also, this phase could never happen. The truth is that a lot of people don’t love their first roommate. While it’s difficult to ignore the fact that you’re living in a confined space with someone that’s nearly impossible to deal with letalone live with, you have to remember that this situation isn’t permanent. This person’s opinions of you don’t define you and just because it’s hard for you to co-exist with this particular person, it doesn’t mean you’ll never be able to find a good roommate or be able to thrive in college.
2. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)
For me, this almost made my freshman year intolerable. Snapchat stories were like getting insight into everything you weren’t at or invited to. Every social event, no matter how small, looked so fun and amazing based on the tiny, deliberate scope Snapchat provided. It made me feel like I could never decline an invitation to any social or non-social event because I might be missing out. It seemed like everyone was having so much fun without me or were doing great things while I was having a night in or studying for class.
People usually aren’t having as much fun as you think and you won’t miss out if you decide to study instead of partying for a night. I mean, if it’s sooo fun, why stop to put 100 seconds of it on your Snapstory? Worrying about all of the things you’re missing and feeling like you’re the only one not having a crazy time is a recipe for disaster. Remind yourself that social media is the highlight reel and not every night is going to be jam-packed with fun and socializing. Also, what’s fun for other people might not be fun for you. If you don’t want to go out, don’t feel like you’re missing out. Not only is this one of the major things you shouldn’t let ruin freshman year, but also it’s something you shouldn’t let ruin any aspect of your life.
3. A Difficult Professor
Once again, while this professor’s class will not last forever, you will get professors that are difficult or awful many times throughout your college career. Difficult professors can make your freshman year difficult, but don’t let it ruin your year. Do the work, try your best and remember that one professor doesn’t control your happiness and ability to succeed. If you’re struggling, go to their office hours and ask for help. If that doesn’t work, you’ll have to tough it out for one semester and make note to avoid that professor when possible.
Avoid being the girl who goes home every weekend and spends more time on the phone with her family and friends at home than she does with the people in her college. You might be missing home, but giving in to your homesickness with constant communication and visits to your hometown will only drive a bigger wedge between you and your college. Submerge yourself into your second home at school and set aside small amounts of time to talk to your friends and family at home. Some people end up realizing they want to go to a college closer to home, and that’s totally fine, but be sure to give yourself a chance to break free and test the waters.
5. Not finding lifetime friendships right away
Like I often say, Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither were lifetime friendships. You’ll find your niche eventually and the truth is, it’s not always freshman year that you find it. The best way to find great friends who share interests is by doing the things you like. If you don’t like partying but go to parties to make friends, it might be harder to find people you want to be with. You get this hammered into your brain constantly, but at the end of the day, just being yourself is the best way to find people you’ll click with. If you pretend to like and dislike things without being true to who you are, you’re setting yourself up to find surface friends, not deep bonds. It might seem like everyone’s finding their niche and future bridesmaids, but there’s no need to stress about lifelong friendships when your college life has just begun. You’ve got time and you probably just haven’t encountered or gotten to know the right people yet. There’s no shame in that.
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Things You Shouldn’t Let Ruin Freshman Year