No, they aren’t “I love you.”
Are you prepared for these three words? They’re going to entirely change your perspective and from here on out nothing will seem as bad or as impassable.
These three words are the perfect mantra to get you help through bad situations and to help you relish in the euphoria of the good ones. Okay, I’m definitely sounding like some sort of Oprah or Confucius here, but I’m trying to build up a little bit of hype for this tiny phrase. Have I built up the suspense long enough?
Here you go, here are the three little words: “Life goes on.”
I know, I’m probably not the first person you’ve ever heard say this; I’m not some grand wordsmith that carved this phrase out of marble but I’m about to tell you how this phrase will be a game-changer. The beauty of this phrase is that it is a simple fact. You can’t argue with fact. Some supposedly reassuring phrases like “It could be worse” or “Everything will be okay” are oftentimes flawed. Tell me, when has “it could be much worse” ever served to make someone feel much better? How does one actually know everything will be okay? The truth is, you don’t.
Life does go on and it always will. I’m not getting all existential or talking afterlife here, I’m talking about the present. You cannot argue it. Horrible things happen? Life goes on. Wonderful things happen? Life goes on. It does not matter how long a situation or state lasts, life will go on regardless. It serves to remind you that nothing is insurmountable and nothing is the end of the world. No matter what happens to you, you will carry on.
I remember having one of the worst weeks of Sophomore year just a few months ago. I was drowning in assignments, class registration left me in a rough spot and it felt like everything was going wrong. I was sitting in one of the campus cafes feeling sorry for myself while eating a slice of pizza (as one does) when I had a sudden thought pop into my head.
“You know what? This week is absolutely shitty and this is horrible. That’s true but the fact of the matter is that life goes on. This week will end, these problems will be in the past and you’ll move onto something else.”
Upon my internal reassurance, I automatically felt much calmer. I could not find any argument or flaw in my logic, which is amazing for someone who always finds a way to worry about a situation. No matter how horrible my week was going or how many problems I had in the moment or how horrible my mood was, they would be over soon and I would carry on.No matter what you are going through, you will carry on because life goes on and you go on with it. Don’t we all need the occasional reminder that it’s not the end of the world?
Much to my parent’s dismay, this phrase now sits nicely on my inner left wrist and I look at it sometimes and automatically feel like there is nothing in the world I can’t handle. While I’m not encouraging tattoos here, I am encouraging that you write this phrase down somewhere you’ll see it–whether it be your phone lock screen or your monthly planner.
The truth about these three little words is that they keep you grounded. The emotionally neutral, simple and short phrase can help you pull yourself away from your worries. The anxious ideas of, “What if I fail this paper?”, “What if we break up?”, “What if I don’t get this job?” can be somewhat shrunken down with these potentially life changing words. This phrase isn’t trying to give you optimism or pessimism, it’s reminding you of reality, which is what’s needed sometimes.
While “Life goes on” is handiest in darkest times, the wonderful moments become all the sweeter when you remember the phrase because no matter how wonderful a moment is, you know it will not last and life will go on. It’s a reminder to relish in the good and a reminder that you will move past the bad. It’s bittersweet but it’s true.
Unlike most small phrases or quotes, these words do not try to minimize your troubles or smother you with optimism. I don’t know about you, but that’s why I love the phrase so much. I love a good inspirational quote or phrase, but sometimes you need a simple truth rather than a beautiful phrase from a philosopher.
Even if these three words are not life changing to you, you might find solace in them in a time of stress or panic. Remember them, write them down somewhere. You never know when you might need them.
If you don’t particularly find any comfort in these words, well, life goes on, doesn’t it?
Image via Kristen M. Bryant